Couples Who Have Moved in Together, What Surprised You Most About Living with A Male/Female?

1: She’s Organized, I’m Not.

“Methods of storage

Me – However method to the madness

Her – Organized

Several conversations have gone like this:

Me – “Where is my blue notebook it was on this shelf under my components box”

Her – “I cleaned up and organized everything”

Me – “Ok where is it?”

Her – “I don’t know why don’t you keep track of your stuff”. – Dancing_apples, Reddit User.

It’s Ok to have someone neat and organized. Yet, it gets annoying when they can’t remember where they kept your things. Or they take it somewhere far different.

2: Divided Pet’s Attention.

“Apparently my cat — who I raised since she was a kitten and loved more than life itself — is more than willing to abandon me and love someone else far more in the blink of an eye.” – _banana_panda_, Reddit User.

No one will feel less betrayed. They probably feel jealous that their pet abandoned them so quickly. These pets aren’t loyal.

3: He Doesn’t Use A Dresser.

“After living with him for 4 years, I opened a drawer of “his” dresser… And it was empty. All of it. He thought it was my extra dresser.

He doesn’t use a dresser. Clothes get washed and put into a “clean clothes” hamper. He puts socks and underwear in his bedside table.

Now I’m wondering what other furniture in our house is empty??” – Waineofark, Reddit User.

It took so long for her to find that out. Men don’t fancy putting their clothes in separate places like women do. As long as he separates the ‘clean’ from the ‘dirty’, he feels he’s good.

4: There’s A Wrong Way to Fold Towels.

“Learning that there’s a wrong way to fold towels apparently.” – Math9958, Reddit User.

You’ll always feel you know everything until someone tells you otherwise. Their partner must have corrected them on many occasions. Or they kept seeing the towels they folded being re-folded.

5: Peeing in the Sink.

“He peed in the sink. That’s all.” – SumAngrySalmon, Reddit User.

Their partner didn’t just have this habit. It had stayed with them for a while and they came to see it as normal. Or they felt it also served the same purpose as the urinary in public toilets.

A Good idea would be to use a Dual Flush Toilet.

6: There Are Different Versions of ‘Clean’.

“How different our versions of ‘clean’ are.” – Wobbly_owl, Reddit User.

They might both be neat but one seems to be neater than the other. One could be fine with a little mess. The other might need everything to be ‘spick and span’ at all times.

7: Always Losing Her Keys.

“How often I’d be helping her find her car keys.

Eventually, I put up a hook that I was able to get her in the habit of using. Made me tear up a little at the time, but a couple weeks after we split, I remember getting a text from her that said “I miss being able to find my keys.” – JohnyUtah_, Reddit User. Some partners are more careless than the other. He helped her stay organized a bit. She probably didn’t know the worth until they split.

8: Peaceful Encounter.

“I was told that we would start arguing and being miserable. It ended up feeling like a super awesome constant sleepover. Don’t let people scare you into not moving in with a significant other if that is what you both want.” – TheKindlyNarcissist, Reddit User.

They must have heard from other couples that moving in could be horrible. They ended up having a peaceful time. No two relationships are the same.

9: Hair Everywhere.

“The hair, man. It gets everywhere.” – Belly84, Reddit User.

If their partner’s hair falls off a lot while combing or whenever it’ll be all over the place. The toilet sinks, floors would be the most frustrating. Maybe in the food sometimes, who knows?

10: Too Used to Being Alone.

“How much I actually talk to myself.

I never had any roommates, aside from one for like the first two weeks in college before I got moved to a single room, so I was used to just talking to myself out loud like nothing. After we moved in together and she kept asking “Who are you talking to?” and “Did you say something?” I realized that I actually talk to myself quite a bit.” – -eDgAR-, Reddit User.

They might not be weird. They just got too used to being alone and keeping their own company. Their partner might think otherwise.

11: Many Unused Items.

“I have never observed my wife put a bobby pin in her hair. I have found thousands of bobby pins in our house.” – Raddlesnake, Reddit User.

Their partner might just have bobby pins stored up for ‘those’ days. Most times, ‘those’ days never come. On the other hand, she’s probably a natural hoarder.

12: Spell Out Everything.

“How specific I have to be when giving instructions to do something. Like instead of saying “wash the sheets” I have to say “wash and dry the sheets and pillowcases and put new sheets on the bed.” – Hbmc1123, Reddit User.

Their partner needs to be told everything in full detail. It might be frustrating but needed if they want everything done right. With time, one of them would adjust. We wonder who it would be.

13: Women Use Toilet Papers More.

“I always knew women went through TP faster than men, but I never knew how much faster they did. It got to the point; I’d just grab a pack of TP whenever I went to the store for any reason. We may not be out at home, but we will be soon I reckoned, and I was never wrong about that.” – NoahtheRed, Reddit User.

There are many things a woman would need toilet paper for. A man might just need it to clean up after the toilet and clean up the mess. A woman will use it for almost everything from makeup to the toilet.

14: Women Have Tons of Everything.

“A lot of it’s been mentioned. Bobby pins everywhere. Hair everywhere. She was not a clean person. I did the cleaning.

But one thing that hasn’t been mentioned is just the sheer amount accessories that she had! Tons of makeup and beauty products. A vanity full of it. Plus, more. Lots of clothes. Tons of clothes she didn’t wear.” – Eternalrefuge86, Reddit User.

Most women keep a lot of things they don’t use. They always have twos or threes of everything. These are usually for ‘emergencies’ that may never come.

15: Don’t Touch the Fancy Pillows.

“Everything has a decorative pillow on it. They are too small to be used for anything, and I’m not allowed to throw them on the floor or pile them all on one chair. The bed has a bunch and a long tube thing. I’m not allowed to wack her with the tube thing.

Where did these come from? Why do we need them? If they’re just in the way, can we put them in storage? No? Ok, babe – whatever you want.” – Ganglebot, Reddit User.

Their partner probably feels the fancy pillows add more décor. It’s either that or they just like seeing them around…like a habit thing. Most ladies love to decorate and you better not mess with the décor.

16: Goodbye Canned Foods, Hello Home-cooked Meals.

“Definitely the food, I’d eat ramen and canned foods all the time when I was living alone. Now I get spoiled with home cooked food. The best part though is she’s been teaching me to cook, I love our cooking school sessions after work.” – Okidog12, Reddit User.

They seem happy that they’re eating more home-prepared meals. Their partner probably detests their unhealthy lifestyle and sought to change them. They’re also learning as well.

17: The Need for ‘Alone’ Time.

“For me, how subtle the need for alone time crept up on me. I wasn’t unhappy in the slightest and moving in was natural.

But over time I felt myself becoming irritable and it turned out that I tend to get that way when I don’t have time to myself, because I went from being alone in my room after work in my parent’s house to being around my SO pretty much every minute I’m not at work or driving, so I found myself with someone almost 24/7, and it took a toll. Thankfully once I recognized that, it was easier to manage.” – OperativePiGuy, Reddit User.

Moving in feels great until one partner is clingy and the other isn’t. This might be the problem or they were just missing their ‘space’. However, it’s good they found a way to manage the situation.

18: Not All Women Are Tidy.

“I always thought of women as tidy and organized. That was until I moved in with one. I swear I spend 20 minutes a day helping SO tidy up the mess she creates in the first hour every morning. Then another 10 minutes every day searching for brushes, hairbands, make-up, clothes etc.” – Jauxerous, Reddit User.

They misjudged all women to be tidy and got their hopes dashed. It’s either they found it difficult to get their partner to change or they prefer to clean up themselves. Either way, let’s hope they find common ground.

19: He Stays Too Long in the Toilet.

“The true shock for me was the sheer amount of time my husband spends in the lavatory.” – Spindlemaker_magpie, Reddit User.

Women are more time wasters in the toilet than men. This must be why they’re shocked that their partner seems the opposite. They probably never thought a man could spend so much time as a lady would or even exceed.

20: She Spends Too Much Time Getting Ready.

“Everything went extremely smooth with my girlfriend and I. I attest that to having almost equal levels of cleanliness standards. I see a lot of people commenting on that and I feel very blessed that hasn’t been an issue in my life. Don’t know how I got so lucky with that.

But what surprises me and what I fail to understand is the vast amount of time she spends getting ready. I try to understand, but I just don’t. She looks beautiful all of the time, but spends an hour and a half to two hours before going out making herself look nice. She looks incredible when she’s done of course! But the whole process stresses her out and she has quoted it as a reason why she doesn’t want to go out sometimes.

Even during little outings with friends, she spends the same amount of time getting ready. I’m a numbers type person. That would be just too many of my seconds spent on this Earth looking nice for other people I’m not trying to physically attract. I don’t press her about it because she has said it’s just something she wants/needs to do.” – ccistheking, Reddit User.

Most ladies are like this. They’ll have to make sure that they’ve got everything done right. Most times, it’s the makeup that takes all the time.

21: He Doesn’t Use the Laundry Hamper.

“No matter how long you’ve been together, or have known each other, you truly don’t know the person. I still love my husband dearly, but I wish he knew what the laundry hamper is.” – mainelymackenzie1820, Reddit User.

They’ll find this frustrating if they’re always cleaning up after their partner. They must have kept correcting but nothing changed. Maybe he’s not used to doing things her way yet.

22: He’s A Better Cook.

“What an absolute master chef he is! I thought I was a great cook until we moved in together and he started making meals. Blew my mind!

Now I think back to when we first started dating and he would eat my cooking and say it was the best he’d ever had, the little liar. Brings a smile to my face!” – SuperSailorSera, Reddit User.

It seems they can cook well. But not as great as their partner. Their partner is also humble enough to praise their cooking too. That makes for an appreciative environment.

23: Perfect Match.

“TBH it was that it worked out so well. My girlfriend and I moved in after about 2 months together due to circumstances of us both moving out of our current apartments and it honestly worked out great.

We didn’t fight, we both cleaned and kept things tidy and it was just a ton of fun. We moved cities for her grad school to get her doctorate and I moved back in with my parents to help remodel and not pay rent as she moved right next to her Uni, but are getting a place together within a couple months.

After almost 2 years of dating we’re both still super excited to be living with one another again soon, I feel as though given the situation and how living together usually goes for couples it should’ve been a disaster. I had moved out of my old apartment before she was out of hers at first, but she had looked up how 1 bed 1 baths would be an option and I was hesitant because of how things like that usually go with an S.O., especially after so short of time dating. It was one of the best and happiest decisions of my life :).” – CeeBeeLFA, Reddit User.

You never know how good or bad living with your partner will be unless you try. They’re quite happy with their decision to live together. They seem quite cooperative with each other…must be why it turned out great.

24: He Leaves Things in Wrong Places.

“I grew up with a brother so I was pretty well prepared for living with a dude but what surprised me the most was that my boyfriend has no issue leaving things lying around where they do not belong.

Dirty plate for example is left on the couch. The mail he just opened ended up on top of the microwave. The towel he dried off with could end up on the kitchen table. Literally no rhyme or reason to the madness.” – Kelstay207, Reddit User.

It’s either their partner grew up with this bad habit. Or he’s just too lazy. Either way, their partner will need to change.

25: He Likes Doing Nothing.

“His ability to be doing nothing. He can lay on the couch and stare at the ceiling and do nothing and think nothing. and he enjoys it. I would pull a muscle or pop something from the strain if I tried to do that.”- Flamingonotgone, Reddit User.

They can’t seem to understand how their partner can survive to do nothing. Their partner is either lazy or just doesn’t like being bothered. Either way, she seems quite different.

26: He Likes Noise.

“The audacity.

No but real answer is how LOUD he needs things to be. Every song/movie/whatever has to be heard from three rooms over.” – wonderlandwalking, Reddit User.

They seem to be conservative and their partner…the exact opposite. Most people can’t enjoy anything if its volume isn’t shaking the walls. This is probably who their partner is.

27: Getting Up Just Got Harder.

“How hard it is to get up in the morning when you have someone to snug.” – FavorsForAButton, Reddit User.

When you’ve got someone to cuddle, you might never want to let go. They probably sleep better with their partner. Or love cuddling in the mornings.

28: Shower Times Together Aren’t Always Like in the Movies.

“It’s actually really hard to effectively shower with another person.” – Being_grateful, Reddit User.

It’s wet and slippery. Anyone could slip and hurt themselves. Unless the bathroom is big enough, the other person might just be getting the dirt of their partner.

29: Men Are Wired Differently.

“His brain doesn’t work like my brain. I try daily to accept this. I’ve been working on it since 2006.” – GTFOakaFOD, Reddit User.

Men and women are wired differently. They haven’t yet gotten used to it. Getting used to it will make for a better understanding.

30: Best Friends.

“The fact that we never run out of anything to talk about, it’s just constant flowing natural conversation. Super weird.” – RoryReanne, Reddit User.

They must have felt it would be different. They seem to like the flow even if it feels strange. Their communication level is spot on.